I recently celebrated my 6th wedding anniversary and I can tell you that it's been a lot bumpier than those Disney films reckon it is! Being a parent doesn't make things harder, but it definitely makes it a little more complex which is why you really do need to make time to celebrate special occasions with your partner.
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| Look how little Carson was! |
Whether it is a one year anniversary or a twenty-one year anniversary,
it is important to spend it with your partner to celebrate
your love, or strength at least! With things like work, children and your financial
situation thrown into the mix, it can be difficult to properly celebrate. Taking the time to consciously remember your wedding day and reflect on
the reasons you fell in love with your spouse is a precious thing. It is the
day you pledged your life to another person and it is worth celebrating, small
moments and all.
Life may sometimes feel like a chaotic madhouse and with everything
going on, spending time with your partner can be the last thing on your mind. However,
being in a loving and caring relationship is one of the greatest gifts you can
give to your children. Spending that time alone together without the children
is important to create and maintain a loving relationship.
Here are some tips to finding that balance between your couple time and
family time in order to allow you to spend time alone together to celebrate
anniversaries and your love for each other.
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| Keep it simple |
Keep it simple
Spending time alone together doesn’t have to mean taking private jets to
Paris. It could just be an hour a drive down to the beach to take a stroll. If you find a moment you want to connect with your partner and your kids
are around, do so. They might give off some embarrassed groans, but in reality,
they will relish in the fact that their parents are happy. If your first-dance song comes on in the supermarket, go ahead and dance
arm in arm. You'll even make other's smile while you're at it! Those small opportunities to connect should not be surpassed.
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| Pamper yourselves! |
Schedule in your
night together
It is important to schedule in your alone time for just you and your
partner. There’s not much room for spontaneity when you are a parent! Plan them
a long way in advance so that you can organise a babysitter and clear some
time. It’s great if you can get away from the family home for the evening. A perfect date night could be staying in a
hotel close to Nottingham, having dinner, maybe going to the cinema; having a
few glasses of wine and taking a romantic stroll back to the hotel together. If you can’t get overnight childcare, go to see a movie in the afternoon
and have an early dinner. Couples that schedule alone time together are able to
turn towards each other more for support and love because it builds a sense of
closeness.
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| Use your words |
Use your words
Affection is shown through what we say as well as what we do. Don’t
forget to speak kindly to each other every day, not just on your anniversary. If
you walk in the kitchen and your partner is doing the dishes, say thanks. It’s
the little things like this that are the building blocks of a relationship. It is just as important to frequently tell your partner that you love
them. After a long relationship, this can be an easy one to forget. But that
reminder and reassurance of your love for each other are what will help to keep
your bond.
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| Why so serious?! |
Don’t be angry
Life can be pretty unpredictable when you have children and it’s not
always possible to celebrate special occasions how you had dreamed. It’s common
to feel unspoken resentment towards your partner for this reason. Instead of
letting emotions build up inside, talk it out if you have something you want to
say. You don’t have to raise your voice or argue, just take some time to sit
down when the kids are in bed and get everything off your chest, one at a time. You and your partner are a united team and you need to communicate your
feelings. It may be hard to remember sometimes, but you are more than just your
children’s parents. You are both one half of a strong and emotional
partnership. Talking
things out and discussing your problems will show your
children what it means to be in a healthy relationship.
What other tips do you have for making time to celebrate special occasions with your partner, when you're a parent? I'd love to hear all about them...
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